Miracles occur naturally as expressions of love. The real miracle is the love that inspires them. In this sense, everything that comes from love is a miracle. ~ ACIM
On the heels of one of the most powerful moons of our lifetime I feel like this week's topic Part three of 'The Art of Surrender' Self Love is tying in nicely with the moon's cleansing and re-programming energies. This moon is all about removing anything that no longer serves or honors us. That means endings of all kinds (don't be sad as endings mean new beginnings can come through), jobs, friendships, romantic partnerships, old habits or patterns we seem locked in forever, just unraveled like magic. Now that's not to say it necessarily felt good, it was an intense overwhelming presence of information and then natural anxiety, that arises when the Divine is making way for the new to come; for our Soul to integrate with our ego. With this in mind let's talk about Self Love, true Self Esteem, without it surrendering can be a painful, stressful experience and this can lead one to spiral into a series of unconscious choices more from distraction then actual healing, compounded or worsen the initial issue.
Firstly the Soul, to me is pieces of the Ultimate Creator of all that is, it is feminine and masculine - Father and Mother God. It’s the energy that gave us life; it’s the love that erupts from our hearts. It is an energy we trade with others. Yet often we give our amazing heart energy (love) to others, then credit them for our power believing they are ‘pulling it out of us’ and the experience or their entry into our life has created it. Then we think without it or them, we can’t find this energy or good feeling. This love or the joy we cultivate when we are in a relationship is our own love or joy (heart energy) that we project out.
When we realize this love is within us and we can direct that to ourselves at any moment, in this we find our true power, inner peace and joy. When we create a relationship with ourselves that gives us all the support whether emotional, mental or physical. When you become your own best friend and you lovingly sit with yourself in gentleness, you cultivate a strength for feeling then actually healing your ‘darkest’ emotions. This process allows you to love the parts of yourself you deny or don't like, creating a deep inner peace. When you do for yourself what you expect other to do for you; when we love ourselves the way we crave others would and turn our own love inward towards ourselves - MIRACLES happen!
It's easy and anyone can do this, it's as simple as starting a daily morning and evening dialogue with yourself, then continuing to act to yourself, as you would to a dear friend, whenever stress or challenges come up. When we love ourselves, it becomes easier to find solutions to tough problems and in turn the world becomes better as people who love themselves don't hurt other beings. Beating ourselves up and shaming ourselves in private; trying to be perfect and mad we aren't; annoyed we can't have the things we ‘want’ and being mean to one another has become the social norm. We are all in deep emotional pain, running around ignoring it. Moving from person to person, expecting others to stand deal with it or even heal it for us - shocked and upset when they can't. Yet we won't stop to love ourselves at these times we can't even take care of ourselves in this state let alone anyone else. And these are the times we beat ourselves up the most.
Truly what we really need is our own attention, to support, and love ourselves. Once this becomes a daily practice, it feels so good and nourishing, that it turns into a moment to moment experience for you. Bringing you into a peace so deep and a fulfillment so settling, that you won’t believe it until you experience it!
“<During your most challenging times > You deserve more love not less." ~ Matt Kahn
Love isn’t one emotion or a euphoric constant state. It’s time to rethink this concept, by bringing love to every experience, thought, feeling - everything becomes love! Spirituality should NOT be about guilting or shaming yourself in private or some constant chase for a solution to who you are. Their is ship or chariot coming for us once we achieved the ego’s idea of ‘perfection’. Why does everything turn into a ritual of torment, when it’s so easy for us to have love and joy? Also this type of self love isn’t vanity, it transcends it. It isn’t about fixing your body to suit others interests or media fueled standards. It is about letting everything that you experience - events, relationships, failures, successes - the emotions, every emotion be exactly how it is, allowing anything that comes up and loving yourself exactly as you are. Because once you have permission to be anything within, your ego and pain no longer needs an external outlet and then only love arises. It’s as simple as sending love to the parts of yourself you are uncomfortable with or wish you could change (“I send love the part of myself that is jealous right now”).
And lets talk about the ego, I invite you to look at the ego like a neglected child, as your inner child not the enemy. It sees that you are giving all of your love and attention to those that don’t treat you well or ignore you. It mimics this to get your attention, yet you ignore it more so the behaviour compounds…and well you get the picture, war with yourself. When you love yourself and bring light to this conflict within, when you stop the game playing and the attention seeking within yourself; allow yourself to be, you realize that you have everything you every wanted and needed within. And everything else falls away, the stories, mis-identification with others or material things, obsessive relationships, pain, drama, anger, sadness. When you love yourself you give yourself permission for anything to arise which frees up your soul to bring forth love, which is our natural state. Let the depth and beauty of your emotions, desires and experiences cut into you; at the deepest levels - feel and see that which you most fear about yourself or past and feel them fully. Let the experiences come into your being. Ever vigilant to maintaining kindness for yourself, and loving, or at least acknowledging in love, anything you experience at all times. And calling on your angels to clear the energetic debris while doing so, will free you from all fear at a conscious level.
When you initially connect with yourself, your inner child (ego) will be resistant. It won’t be receptive and all this Self Love will at first feel awkward and fake. You may get tired, bored, sarcastic and think what’s the use? You may feel a deep sadness and like a wall…this is a great sign your on the right path! You have been ignoring yourself, beating down, assaulting and torturing yourself for years. You have broken trust with yourself, so loving yourself will feel weird, with good reason. But it’s like the parent holding the upset child; a mother knows that her love helps even if nothing is happening externally. Even if the child is acting out or emotional. By staying steadfast in your own commitment to love you will enact miracles in your life. Now everytime you come up against these stop signs, you may have to get honest with yourself and have a conversation with yourself. Ask yourself for help, to be taught and shown how to love yourself the best and what you need. We run around with these beliefs that if we avoid or distract ourselves from our feelings, eventually they will just go away or heal themselves. Time heals right? This is a myth, the fastest way out of deep emotions is to FEEL them. Get right into them and have an honest reflection and ACCEPTANCE of them, and allowing them. And I am not talking about appraisal them of them, criticizing yourself or assigning blame to outside reasons, people or events. What I am suggesting is that you just allow them to be, recognize they are there and them just love them. This is a simple concept we have heard over and over, yet doing it has been the issue. I promise if you keep apply these methods your life will change for the better, they will work if you don’t give up. When will you free yourself and come into your own love?
Suggested Practices For Self Love
Some of the activities I am suggesting to create a truly loving relationship with yourself is:
~ Recording prayers, scripts of Self Love and affirmations
~ Listening to spiritual talks, videos, tracks and dvd’s
~ Taking a media cleanse
~ Praying for the collective
~ Anytime a problem arises or an uncomfortable emotion comes up talk to yourself and treat yourself as you would your dearest friend
~ Touch your heart often and say beautiful compliments or give gentle loving support to yourself
Suggested Daily Morning and Bedtime Rituals:
Record the following as a voice note or make a beautiful track with music:
1) “I am a being of light and love. I love and value the many wonderful qualities I possess. From this moment forward, I will honor and value myself, all that I am and all that I do, in the knowledge that I am part of God’s creation. I am worthy of love.” Repeat several times through out the day and to yourself in the mirror
~ Angel of Self Worth Card Angels; Gods and Goddesses Deck - Toni Carmine Salerno
More Recording Scripts or Suggest Dialogue:
Script 1 - General Healing Script to Initiate Self Love
Touch your heart and close your eyes and really be with yourself, connect to your heart. Say silently or aloud “[YOUR NAME], my love! How you doing in there honey, I love you. I haven't loved you enough...and don't quite know how but I am going to let you show me...I know it's been tough and you are afraid and anxious that ok, I understand. I love our sweet heart for this! We deserve the best. We deserve respect, remember everything always works out and is here to help us. And I am going to give you the love I expect others to give us. I love you.”
Script 2 - For Relationships That Have Ended
Touch your heart and close your eyes and really be with yourself, connect to your heart. Say ”[YOUR NAME] my love! How you doing in there honey, I love you. I haven't lived you enough...and don't quite know how but I am going to let you show me...I know it's been tough and you miss them and that's ok, I understand, it is normal after loving someone for so long. The hopes and dreams of the relationship are the hardest to let go of. I love our sweet heart for this! But we deserve the best. We deserve respect. And I am going to give you the love I expect others to give us. I love you.”
Script 3 - Daily Greeting to Connect With Unconditional Love
Goodmorning my love! I am my higher self, higher self thank-you for connecting with me and for bringing unconditional love to everything I am and do today! 3 specific things I value about myself today that are different from yesterday are…[list 3 different unique and specific things each day]. Thank-you! And thank-you for showing me how to love me the way I need, and for guiding me throughout the day.”
Script 4 - A favorite from Alana Fairchild Sacred Rebels Card Deck
"I love you. I trust you. You are beautiful and you are wise. You beat in harmony with the great plan of love you are my guiding light."
3) Record any prayers that move you deeply so you can use them to check in during the day at anytime your feeling low or want to magnify a positive time.
4) Go on a media cleanse: Monitor the words in the shows you watch, movies, music everything you have around you feeds you. Even when you think you aren’t paying attention, what you are linking your mind to through your sight and hearing is co-creating your experience. Is it positive? Is it happy? Or is it just causing an adrenaline rush, or a distraction from my emotions and pain?
5) Praying for the collective: Bless the planet and all beings; Praying for others who feel like you or are experiencing the same struggles as you or for them to have the things you want most. This helps create a positive flow of energy out to others as well as to yourself, it is essentially like making a deposit in your spiritual bank account which will pay off in all ways - emotionally, physically or spiritually
6) Volunteering: Helping someone in need, that may not be able to do things themselves or just need companionship helps fulfill big hearts in sensitive people or open closed hearts on people in pain. It can help foster gratitude for the things we do have in life and put a new perspective on things.
7) Donating to causes that move your heart can really help ease stress. Especially when your worried about the world issues but can’t get out into the field and physically help. Plus tithing of time, money or blessings is always repaid tenfold from the Universe: Some of my favourites are Wild Cat Reserves, Ocean Clean-up, Children in poverty, Reforestation projects, Sex Trafficking, Female rights or programs, Prevention of Female Mutilation groups…etc.
8) Valuing yourself and Gratitude Journal:
9) Guided meditations: Help get into mediation practices, foster self-healing and bless the planet with mediation tracks a few of my favourites are:
-“Soul healing with Selenite.” from the Crystal Angels 444 Vol 1 Album
-“Awakening the Sacred Heart with Christ Consciousness.” For Love and Light on Earth, Radiant Meditations for Personal and Planetary Healing
Sonic Sound Programs - Duncan Goheen
Twin Hearts Mediation - Master Choa Kok Sui
Until next week…I love you, your Angels love you and you deserve to feel happy, to feel at peace and live your dreams! And don't forget to bring the light into everything you do today! Namaste
Now it’s your turn! Have you ever stood behind yourself or loved yourself into an amazing healing experience? I would love to hear from you!!! Please leave any comments below or on my Facebook page!
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As always, thank you for reading - Namaste,
Jayde Crystal Xo